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I've learned so much the last three years. I've learned that all my dreams arn't attainable, maybe some of them never were. I make about four times in a year what we made together in our best years and I've learned that it doesn't make me happy. I don't know how to tell you how much I love you still. I wish some time machine existed that could take me back or reset things to the way they were before 04 but that's just a fantasy. The truth is, no matter how much I love you I can never be with you again. There is absolutely nothing that you could do or say that could cause me to trust you again. I wish with all my heart that there were. The best times in my life I spent with you.That's a little misleading. They wern't the best years and I spent them with you, they were the best years because I spent them with you. What we had I know I'll never have again with anyone else. It makes it pointless for me to even look. No one I've met even comes close to affecting me like you did and I'm sure no one ever will. I don't know if it's because I won't let them close or because it isn't you, maybe both. I've also learned that I'm thankful for all the good years we had. I've learned too that I may never get over losing you. When I told you I would love you until the day I died, I meant it, and I still do.

i have problems hanging around ppl. i'm too shy. and i guess that when i am with ppl i try so hard that i end up saying or doing the wrong thing. sometimes i could just be quiet and not do anything and ppl STILL won't hang with me. i've been pushed around and bullied since i could remember pretty much..i'm the youngest in the family. i have 2 older brothers. and they boss and push me around all the time..and they're friends and my neighbors would be mean to me too. my parents aren't the most social ppl either. my mom can be very mean. she takes many things personally and will most likely be the one that starts a fight. i think i can relate a little to my dad. he says and does the wrong things too. he's unaware of it though. and no one judges him or treats him any different than any one else that's why (which is different for me..). i'm not bothered that ppl are pushing me around because i want them to be my friend or something. most of the ppl who bully me are ppl i don't even know! and whether ppl are bullying me around or not, i'm very different from them. not to be mean or anything, but i have noticed that every one dresses the same and acts the same at my school. i live in riverside, ca. and all the girls here (that i've seen anyways) put gel and baby oil in their hair. to make it look shiny and stringy. and the guys all either dress like some emo person or some gangster. and everyone i know cusses and says the f-word and b-word and everthing! i'm not like that though. i don't put stuff like baby oil in my hair and i don't dress like i'm emo (although sometimes i feel like i relate to their problems) and i don't dress like some gangster! and whenever i cuss, it just feels weird 'cuz i'm not used to it, so i don't cuss at all. so why am i so unsocail? why can't i get a long with everyone else? why can't i make friends easily?? is it because i have low self esteem because of all the bullying i've had to deal with all my life? is it because i inherited some kind of characteristic from my parents that makes me have trouble with ppl? or is it the fault of the ppl around me? am i just too different from them? or is there nothing wrong with me? maybe they're just pushing me around because THEY'VE got something wrong. i don't know! help would be great please!

alrite well ive like this guy for a couple months now and i never did anything about it. i told my friend i like him then she started talking to him. she likes him now and is mad that i like him because she feels like she cant go out with him cuz of me. i told her im totally over him and that she should go ahead and go out with him, but i still really like him. . . what that the right thing to do to keep peace between us?

She said she loves him. But she continues to have sex with the other guy. My friend is waiting for her to make up her mind and just go out with him, but I don't think she will. She is very selfish and immature. My advice to him was to just tell her she has to choose, and if not he was leaving. But he didn't want to say that to her. Then I said maybe he should date another girl as well, but he said he loves her and just wants her. Should he wait for her? What should he do?!?!

i totally don't have self esteem issues or anything, i just want to know. be honest i can handle it. like 1-10. please and thank you. http://i33.tinypic.com/2n8r43q.jpg http://i34.tinypic.com/2luazk8.jpg ^im in the blue dress

Alright so me and him have been on and off. He was the only guy, that made worth breaking up, and getting back together a full filling journey. To start it off, it all came down to my first heartbreak, until I was introduced to church. My mom wanted me to go and I was so heartbroken that when I went, we caught eachothers eye. It took my mind off my first love completely. Then in time we found eachother, and we have a relationship. It was fun, and I loved it...but because church was a new environment for me, I knew it was where I belonged, and not off with these bad boys. Then we broke up, and I went out with a bad boy..things didnt work out..but somehow me and this boy were lead to eachother again. Then we broke up one more final time, and it was hell after. He was so mad at me leaving him...but yet he kept telling me he hoped I was the one. You know in church its hard to find people out in this world..so all the teens would usually date eachother. Well I've been gone from church for a LONG time..and when I came back, out found out he was dating my friend. well were all friends in church. I think because i was gone for so long, he felt he should move on. Though now that im back...we keep making eye contact. Though he keeps his distance, maybe cause hes with this girl? Me and him were that couple. The one everyone wanted to be like. he always accepted me for who I was...and now its final that because life hit me with a big slap in the face..I want him back..and I miss him...& they say nothing is ever too late...What signs should I be looking out for to see if he has feelings?? Do you think he does?? What do I do so that I can not pushing him away, but draw his attention as well.

I was using the computer at learning center in college and i'm at the printer and asks about her print job and she smiles (were not in the same glass) and than the same day I went to subway and as soon i was about to enter she opens the door (to leave the store) and smiles at me. I applied for a job the same day(shortly after getting a sjob) she works their! lol she's hot and gorgeous! i know this probably doesn't mean anything lol I saw her friggin thong! lol nice when i was at the lab station i can't get it off my mind i want it lol

So last week I was at the mall with 2 of my friends. One of the friends I was with, lets call her Sarah, is really hot and is always getting noticed by the guys (although a lot of people are scared of us, we dress like gothic type people). While we were there, a girl came up to us and asked for her number because her brother had thought she was really hot but was too shy to ask her himself. Sarah gave the girl her number, and soon we were texting the guy, let's call him Ben. Two days later, on Sunday, the 2 friends I was with and I met up with Ben at the local park and we hung out. As it turns out, Ben is really cool! Now Ben and I are friends, but he's CRAZY about Sarah, even though Sarah loves another guy. The thing is, I'm starting to like Ben, but it's so confusing because Sarah might start going out with him and I know how much he likes her. I think I've got a chance too, though, because today Sarah told me that Ben had said it was really cool how accepting I was with his past involvement with drugs and his current smoking habit since hardly anyone is.

so theres this guy i really really like...but he's quite a bit older. ill be 18 in a few months, but i donno...we flirt alot...but im not sure if he might possibly like me, or if he's just pulling my chain ya kno? cuz even tho im almost 18 i look really young. im really mature, but not annoyingly so...im just not a giggly goof like most girls my age. its weird most guys if i even like them one little bit i cant talk around them i get really self conscious and stupid, but around him, we always have something to talk about. i just dont know what to do...i dont want to lead myself on, but i like him so much. what do u think, do i have a chance? we work together so we get to hang out alot, tho i dont see him everyday...and i donno...but even if he does like me, would it be weird if we tried to make anything of it? he's like 24 i think...but he's a young 24...

I get mostly A's and B's but sometimes a C. Math is my favorite subject (i have and A). I have strawberry blonde hair and glasses, short, im not fat but not skinny. I love to read and just talk to a guy. would i make a great girlfriend???

ok so me and my friends are what you would call the "popular crowd" so doesn't that mean that we aren't supposed to be made fun of? guys always make fun of me(make fun of how i eat, call me molls balls, etc.) it bothers me a lot and they joke around and say "we make fun of you so much because you are easy to make fun of! you don't do anything about it!!!" and i guess they are right because all i do is say "don't call me that!!!" or "you guys are so mean!!!" so how can i make them stop???

i want to go out with my new friends ex but i dont know if its the right thing to do because its only been like 3 to 4 weeks but she is now a big part in my life because she is my link to meeting people and she seems like she wants to date me

I like to play video games a lot, it is my hobby. Ever since I moved from my other neighborhood my life has changed. I have tried to talk to people but none of them have no ineterest in games. Most of the time im by myself and listening to other people have conversations about things I have no interest in like sports. I am usually by myself on weekends now and when we go back to school, I hear all these people talk about how great there weekend was together. My school has no one that has an interest in games and it is depressing for me, what should I do?

Anyone have ideas on implementing crystals in a wedding and reception without spending too much money? My colors are red (apple), black and ivory. I want my centerpieces, cake table and buffet table to be designed with crystal. Please post pictures if available.

I have this really big crush on this guy and i want him to like me. PLEASE help me!

My girlfriend and i are in a same sex relationship. Our youngest son is 5 years old. When we got together he was 5 months old. I am the only other parent that he knows. And i provide all the support for him. Can I adopt him.

I think I love ryland what do I do?????????

My boyfriend just started calling me "babe" out of nowhere. In all of my past relationships I have never been called a pet name so I guess I'm just a little surprised. He started calling me it randomly and I was just wondering why a guy would start using a pet name for you out of nowhere?

this one time when I was drunk I slept with this super hot college chick, we were both drunk the next morning I woke up and was surprised coz my sister is in bed with me....kinda weird coz I never knew what happened to that cute college girl /shrug but still I wanna meet that college chick again, or should I move on?

well this is kinda a continuation from a past question i've had. hes such a sweet guy, kind of the lonerish type, but idk. he isn't bothered by a lot of things either. ttly opposite of me, but i like him anyway. well one day we were riding the bus to get to school from band practice (it was at a football field a while away) well, my friends were bugging me to go sit w/ him and they were really pressuring me! i dont mind much since it actually gave me some courage. so i sat w/ him and they were yelling at me to lay on him (not in a pervertive way!!) and well i did but it was a little awkward cuz his arm was kinda pushed into my back. i told him that this was a little weird so he put his arm around me and let me settle in. and i kinda fell asleep on him cuz i was freakin tired! (i went to sleep at 4 am the night before...i was just being a nerd and reading...BREAKING DAWN!!!) my friend told me that he looked down at me sleeping and smiled and put his head on top of mine. i dont know if its true but it got me blushing! i was supposed to ask him out that day but i was too much of a chicken!! i dont know if he likes me back that way. its complicated. im a very shy grl (when it comes to boys i like) and my experiences w/ guys haven't been all that good. can anyone help me? I KNOW THIS IS A LITTLE LONG BUT BEAR W/ ME!!

Freshman year of college started a couple of months ago, and I met a guy in another hall who I thought was gonna become a friend. We hung out a few times and I know that he liked me at first, but we haven't hung out for a couple of weeks and have gradually stopped texting/instant messaging. I felt like I was the one trying to keep it up towards the end, too. I haven't contacted him for awhile because, even though he's never been anything but nice, I felt like he just wasn't interested in talking to me anymore for some reason. But the last couple of times I've gotten on AIM when he's been on, he puts his away message up after a couple of minutes. I never even try to chat with him on AIM, but it sucks to think that just because I signed on he'd put his away message up. And I've seen him a few times recently coming to/from class, but he's either never seen me or pretends not to. The last time this happened I finally just said hi, and he smiled and said hey and it didn't feel uncomfortable, but the next time I was on AIM he did the same thing with his away message. I don't feel like I've done anything for him to be ignoring/avoiding me. I've made other friends and I'm sure he has to, but I really liked him and I don't like it when people just disappear from my life. Why isn't he talking to me anymore?

I'm a girl and I've always liked guys, like totaly boy crazy. But lately I have been really attracted to this girl. This is the first time this has ever happened. Does this make me bisexual?

I'm 13. Yeah. Some of you may think that's too young for dating, but PLEASE don't judge your answer on that. Anways. I like this guy. He likes me. His friends are more popular then mine, mine are more go with the flow.. He hasn't had the best reputation last year. He's very... "interested" in girls. He's changed. But my friends always talk smack about him, and they would probably die if I went out with him.. PLEASE DO NOT SAY "If their true friends, they would understand." because that's what everyone says. Thanks.. =)

so my bf and i have been together for a long time (we are mid 20's- not some 12yr olds just to clear it up). I work part time at a chain restaurant for about 2months now, i have not asked for time off other than days i have class which i cant help. Ive never called in and im always on time, my manager is really nice & realistic. Thing is, my bf and i want to take a trip together for a few days near new years. I honestly dont even know if we are open then but theres really no way to find out w/o asking and that would be kinda obvious. I want to just tell them the truth, that i havent seen him in 5months and we'd like to take a 4day trip (id need those 4days off- including new years day). Are restaurants open on new years? Its similar to Chili's or red Lobsters...one of those. Should i tell them the truth? Is it a reasonable request? People are always taking a week at a time off for random trips & i will be requesting it now-over 2 months in advance. What should i tell them? Thanks.

Last night I broke up with my boyfriend. He was always telling me how much he loved me and later on in our relationship he started getting clingy and needy--he would call EVERY night and it seemed like I had to do everything with him. Eventually, my feelings began to fade while his grew stronger. Then last night, I broke up with him. It was awful. He started crying and asking if there was anything he could to to try and fix things between us. I thought I was doing the right thing at the time, but today I was an emotional wreck. I got so used to talking to him every day, and having him there to confide in, that I didn't realize how much I would miss his company. I even started crying when my friends told me not to think about it, and I've been crying almost every time someone mentions him since then. I don't know if I made a mistake or not....

I really need some serious advise. So let's start from the beginning. I am currently in a serious/ live-in 2 year relationship with a wonderful man. He is loving and caring and treats me like a queen! It is the best and healthiest relationship I have ever had. I am 27 years old and he is 30. We live together and are really amazing friends. We have our issues though, as do most couples. The main one is that he is not as financially mature or "aware" as what I think a 30 year old should be. We have had this issue since the beginning. At first it was his work ethic. He had very little, which left him broke come pay day and everyday. He now has an excellent work ethic, (not a great job though, but I can even see past that) however he never has any money for ANYTHING because he has no idea as to how to manage money. I created a budget for him recently and he is doing really well and is following it...But I feel now after 2 years that this whole issue has taken it's toll on me. If we ever want anything new, I need to pay. I need to pay for everything most times because he is always playing catch up with his bills (or not) etc. And he also owes me money because I have to lend him money anytime we want to take a short trip, which we did once. He is so sweet and he loves me so much, and I love him too, but now I find myself looking at other men and wondering if I would be better off looking for a man who is more independant and financially responsible. I am especially thrilled by this very attractive guy who lives next door to me. He is very cute and is single. I don't know him but he has his own home and car and I fanticise about being with somone like that. I even hope the guy next door will notice me and take interest :( And I put an effort into it. I feel very confused. My boyfriend is so amazing, and he makes me feel special and takes good care of our apartment and the laundry, but I really can't take anymore playing mommy or banker with him. Should I be patient and stick with my lover? Or should I break it off? Please help! Any advise is great.

There is this guy at my school that i like alot. He is really sweet and funny. i like him alot but i dont know how to tell him. He is like a brother to me he is really close so i dont want to risk our friendship. He always kids around with me by telling me he loves me and holding my hand and blowing air kisses. When he does this you can tell he is joking but i really dont want him to be. It's not only me that he does it too though. he doest this to a few other girls at our high school. I guess i'm asking for advice. How do i tell him about my feelings? Btw. I am a sexist person.....yuck. I think that the guy should ask the girl out....pretty stupid huh?

im on my friends account sooo i love my boyfrienddd A LOT he's great and makes me smile all the timeeeee. anywaysss I've been traveling quite a bit because of surfing. im a competitive surfer and I went to hawaii for three weeks and just got back. anywaysss we went on a great date and we were making out in his car before he took me home and kept saying how he loved me and he missed me... I was flattered cuz I missed him a lot too but then he put my hand on his groin and said he was having an erection. and might i addd that he has NEVER acted this way I got really tripped out because he was moving fast and told him to take me home. I was actually happy he felt this way, but im afraid he's gunna expect more out of me since im not home often and im seriously not ready for sex what should I do?!? thanks sooo much:)

Me and my gf have fallen in love with each other but her mom found out we were dating (again) and now my gf says we can never call again but i know shes the right person for me! :'( btw this is a long distance relationship

im wondering if its true that most guys will not change their behavior for a girl, for example if they are too irresponsible, or dont treat them very well. has anyone gone through this and know?

Last week I was raped and now I feel like a s-l-u-t no matter what because I wanted to wait till marriage and with someone i loved. Im over the whole rape thing, kinda and the first person i told like RIGHT after it happened was my bf. He lives like 4 hours away from me and he understood how I felt cuz he was raped quite a few times too. But the day it happened, I talked to the police and they put my bf as a suspect because we were on the phone before it happened. I KNOW it wasnt him but no one believes me (for now) until the match up the DNA that was on me but no one in my family likes my bf and so my mom gave the police my bf's numbers and i think they are gonna go to his house or question him. I couldnt talk to him for like 3 days (well i tried) but i couldnt because the police took my phone and email even tho my bf doesnt have internet but i texted him the other day on my friend's phone for like 20 min before hw went to work and i was freaking out because i didnt know if he police called him. He said they didnt and why would they and I told him why and he said something like, "well i dont want to get in trouble just because we were on the phone talk before it happened" and so i said "well do you want to not talk or break up so they dont find you?" and he said "we will see but keep me informed with what going on" i dunno if im being sensitive or just over reacting but i mean, i might have a STD or be pregnant because of the guy who raped me. i feel horrible for dragging my bf into it but i thought he would be like "the police will find his DNA and know its not me, so dont worry" but i dunno. should i expect a break up? or do you think its reasonable that he is mad? Thanks.

some one told me that i shouldn't need an excuse to talk to girls that i don't know (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuRnjDFfhv1i3u4JkLKXjxjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081015170051AAAaXg6). maybe that's true, but if i am going to be lame and use an excuse, which of these would work? 1. have you heard of the book of mormon? 2. hey, are you that girl that we hung out with at steves house? nevermind, that was someone else. 3. i hate to bother you, but could i borrow 2 dollars for bus fair? 4. is that my hat? i swear thats mine. did you take that? this isn't funny. 5. do you know how to get to the mall from here? 6. excuse me, will you spot me? i'm going to do some pushups. 7. excuse me mam, have you seen this boy? (show picture of john conner) 8. i'm doing a survey for the candy companies of america, what's your favorite color skittle? 9. i'm looking to buy some thing for my mom's birthday, what the hell do girls like? or if you have any other ideas that work

am i? i just turned 13, and i really like him. i mean, i would just call him and talk, maybe go to the movies. nothing bad. am i too young?

no dirty talk, role play or anything else....and the woman is into EVERYTHING else.... They come to you as a couple and ask: who needs to change? Does the woman need to calm down and not desire these things or does the man ned to open up and experience more?

We meet a little over a month ago. and we talk on the phone whever we can && message through myspace he calls me babe, and tells me he misses me. Should i give up? Am i wasting my time? Should i Find someone else? Oh and he lives a Day away from here. N.O

so me & my bf hav been ding 4 10 months, & really love him, im only 16 hes 17 & he HAS NEVER pressured me I mean NEVER pressured me, he has always been very patient with me, will i have been thinking if i should make love to him or wait, but the thing is, is that i already slept wit sumone else when i was "in love" should i wait until mine & his relationship gets deeper, or soon?

ladies would you date a guy 6 years older than you

i want some real poetry type stuff. dont just say a feeling or something within one's self. i know that but i really want a true and pure poetic like definition. please try to give me one! thanx!

im going out with this guy i like this weekend, and need some unique and fun idease for things we can go do. i need ideas for inside and outside activities since i dont know what the weather will be like... the more unique yet fun, the better... we did the whole dinner and a movie bit last weekend for our first date and would like to do something new and different. we are both 21, but would like to do something other then clubs and bars. Thanks!!!

Starting form the top, I am a junior in high school and i went to the homecoming dance for once. I do not dance, but for some reason i got comfortable and danced. Well, I danced on this guy and come to find out he like me. We started talking. He's a cool guy, he nice, sweet, a GENTLEMEN. He ain't the cutest thing but he ain't ugly. The only thing is that he shorter than. i mean this guy is not just 2/3 inches shorter, but he's like to my chin round, and i don't typically go wit shorter guys, but my friends are saying I should give him a try and "big things come in small packages". That saying is true but I really can't yet deal with the height difference. I can see over his head, thats how short this guy is. However, he likes me alot. I can't even explain how much he like me. But i don't know what should I do. Its like I would be embarrassed going with a guy his height but i LOVE his personality and him for him. But, how do i deal with his height??? and should i give him a chance eventhough i would be embarrassed around him???

ok everyone. on saturday my dad was yelling at me saying he didnt like my friends coming over because they seem rude to him. Then he said he wanted me to not invited them over. yeasterday they came over really unexpectley and my father came home nd they were all on the computer. i really didnt invited them over now today he was acting really mean and ingnorant and i began crying i was mad and sad at the same time ugh i hate that feeling. can anyone give me advice and ps- he told my mom in the phone right in my face that i was such unobident.? how can i shapen up?

Do you like the song i wrote? (lyrics & music)? i just randomly picked a poem from the poetry on YA, and wrote a melody to it and here it is do you like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRSeVT_ePcs

i dont know what to do yesterday i asked him for his number he gave it to me so today i called it he didnt pick up and he called me back 2 hrs later i was in the shower lol. any way should i call him back its an 1 hr and 30 min has passed since he had called im really confused on what to do and what should we talk about hes my crush?? i just dont want to mess anything up we already good friends.

how can you tell if a guy loves you?

a guy approach you like in a classroom, you are sitting alone, a guy sits next to you and introduce himself to you. or if you were in a university club meeting, and you were with your friends, and a guy approaches you and introduce himself to you. or if you were in a church break (between sunday church pastor speaking and sunday school), would you find it odd that if a guy introduce himself to you if you were talking to one of your friends that is next to you?

ok i was in love with this guy who my WHOLE family hated and apparently he was bad news... well his family and i are good friends... we are very close. and recently my ex got arrested for grafitti and my dad put a restraining order on him and i got into LOADS of trouble by sneaking out to see him and talk to him.. it was mostly a romeo and juliet love story, even though he left me heartbroken... he usually does that to girls. i learned that he wasnt bf material... but my dad and his dad have set up a meeting under the permission of the police department and i want to apologize to them because its all my fault. i wanna write them a letter but i dont want them to think im a freak for sending a letter or see the it and be like: ok...wtf? but theyre like my second family.. and i want them to know.. what can i say? and explain that i thought i was in love and i apologize for any harm ive caused the family... can u gimme advice or ideas? [without embarassing myself!? and acting maturally and UNselfish?!] thanks =] btw im 14 hes 15

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. although we have had alot of fights we are still together. the past couple months I have really been questioning things. awhile ago he called me stupid and said i had no common sense over something so small...i was uspet and then he said he was joking about it and that i would only get upset if i thought i was stupid..and a couple weeks ago he came over to me and was talking about something and I gave him a wierd look then he grabbed my ponytail and said "i have a stupid girlfriend" and later said that he was joking and he isn't serious and that he was sorry. these things really upset me. he is also irresponsible and doesnt repect anything like my family or my job, just because I get payed less than him. but the other side of him is so caring and nice, he buys me things, takes me wherever i want to go and can be so sweet and just cuddle me all night. this is where i am confused..I think i should break up with him (especially since my parents dont really like him) when he acts so mean and then when he is nice i dont think we need to. plus he is my first serious relationship and im afraid i will not find anything better even though everyone says i am beautiful. i just always feel like i am not good enough for him. i am so confused and am afraid to not have him in my life, i talk to him everyday and he has become a big part of my life, i dont know what to do. ....any advice..?

K so my friend is 17 years old. I've met her parents, and they are cool but they are SO strict. Like she has a drivers license, had it for 3 years, and she is not aloud to drive. She can't see any movies that are pg 13 or R, she can't go out past 9:00, if we go to a football or basketball game she has to sit the whole time, we cant go walk around and visit with other friends, and so many other rules. Like I understand over protective parents and all trying to watch out for their kids cause the love them and stuff, but this is seriously annoying me. We haven't done anything for the past few weekends cause it's always to late to go out, or she can't drive so we don't have a ride.. Seriously. What can I do? I can't drive cause I don't have a car & last time she was with us and stayed out past 10 her mom got really mad at both of us. Is there anything I can do? I feel like we are growing farther apart cause we haven't really seen each other since the summer, eccept at school.