Depending on who you are,
online dating online can make finding the right man or woman to date
easier. You can avoid awkward opening lines or being judged immediately
by the clothes you have on, your hair style, your makeup or lack there
of, the car you are driving or the friends you
are hanging out with.
Online dating gives you the unique opportunity to make three
first impressions. First time meetings are crucial so when
you meet someone online, you have time to prepare to make a great
first impression. The very first impression is your
online profile, the second first impression is your initial contact of
this person or response to them if they contacted you. The third first
impression is the in person meeting or first date.
If you are serious about finding someone for a long term relationship and want online dating to work, follow our advice
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Your Online Profile: Be
honest, positive, use current photos. Don't lie about
your age, job, children, likes or dislikes, marital status,
smoking, drug use, hobbies or anything. You shouldn't have
to change who you are or lie about who you are to find your
match. The right person will like you for who you already
have become.
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The Initial Contact:
Either someone has seen your online profile and has
contacted you or you have found and online profile that
interest you. Again, be honest! Choose your words carefully
but remember to be yourself. Write out your initial contact
or response first. Proofread it and spell check it and then
proofread it again. Think to yourself, would you respond
positively to what you just wrote?
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The First Date: Great!
After a few e-mails back and forth, you have found you have
some common interest and have decided to meet in person to
see if you really connect. Plan ahead and be prepared. Think
of some questions before the date. Don't talk about yourself
too much, compliment her or him and don't bring up the ex.
Try your best to use manners and good grammar and don't
forget about hygiene!
Guys: Pay for
dinner on the first couple of dates, hold open doors
including the car door and continue to do this until the day
you die or split up, whichever comes first. Trim your nose
hair and eyebrows if needed, clean your fingernails and use
deodorant.
Ladies: Try to not text
or talk on the cell phone during the entire date unless it's
the babysitter. If you lied about your age, weight or used a
photo that is 10 years old, don't be surprised if he doesn't
seem interested.
Remember, guys like compliments too. If he looks nice or
smells good, don't be shy, tell him. Men are easy to please
so a little goes a long way.
Following the advice above will take you a
long way, the rest is up to you.
We also recommend you do not use sites such as
Craigslist or Backpage.com to find your date. Although
Craigslist and Backpage are excellent sites for classified ads,
they are not good for online dating.
Recommended Dating Services
We highly recommend you use either eharmony.com or
Match.com
Both are excellent dating sites and each has
its
benefits.
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eharmony.com
acquires detailed information from all participants of their
service before they can view and contact other member. Once
this information has been collected and processed, you will
be offered select profiles of other members that eHarmony
has determined would be a good match for you.
Remember, as long as you were honest when you were filling
out your information, this will be a very successful venture
for you.
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Match.com
offers the largest selection of single women and men to
choose from. Match.com has looser guidelines too. You
will have access to all member profiles and member photos.
But once again, you must be honest in your profile and with
yourself if you are serious about finding a quality match
that will lead to a lasting relationship. Trying to go for a
person out of your league or that doesn't have much in
common with you just won't work.
You are best off
searching for a potential partner that has common interest
and is reasonably close to your location. There are
bound to be dozens of potential matches within a reasonable
distance of your location. If there isn't, give it a few
days to a couple weeks, singles join Match.com all the time.
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Other Dating Services: If
you want even more variety or a specialized or targeted
dating service such as Latinos only or Christians only,
click on your state below. Also, if you are only out for a
one night stand or an occasional hook up, you will also want
to choose your state below.
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